Monday 10th March
It was just how you felt. There is nothing wrong with stopping talking to someone because you no longer want to. People do it all the time. Don’t dwell on it and just try not to think of it. It’s in the past so just move on and forget about it. I’m sure they will too. x
Just give it time and make effort to talk to her. When you hang out make the most of being able to talk and get to know her better. But it does take time to make a friend really so just take it slow and bond over things and make friends gradually. :) x
Not saying it back has probably scared him off a little as nobody wants to confess feelings only to have them not returned. So i’d say talk to him, flirt with him and get to know him better and see what happens. Don’t worry about anything else like who he’s friends with only worry about him. And if he says he likes you again say it back. If you feel the same obviously but it will definitely make him less likely to make a move if you refuse to return the feelings. x
Well you need to decide soon so you can save the friendship of whoever you turn down. But really those past things have nothing to do with it as I’d say just go off who you prefer spending time with. Who makes you happiest and laugh the most. Who would you choose to give your only spare ticket to? x
One of my best friends liked one of our mutual guy friends for a long time, but he really wasn’t into her that way, and a few months ago, they agreed to just stay really good friends. She told me that she’d lost interest, but I haven’t confirmed that. Anyway, I just hooked up with him, and we agreed to keep it a secret, but I don’t know what to do! I want to keep hooking up with this guy, but I feel terrible about possibly hurting one of the sweetest people I know. On the other hand, is it worth causing the drama of telling her, especially since I don’t know if the hook-ups are going to continue or be a big deal? I’m also worried that it’ll ruin the dynamic of our group of friends.
A: I would suggest maybe talking to her and saying that you think you might kind of like him and ask how she would feel about that. See where she really stands on her feelings and also kind of warn her something might happen. Depending on that you can probably decided whether to tell her or not and also whether to stop as if she says she’s not happy with you doing anything with him then you should stop. Unless you really like him.
I’ve just noticed that some people seem to be sending messages to my personal blog, but I don’t have this blog notify me so I never manage to see these messages as I go on my messges for the advice blog only to answer advice. I also don’t tend to post advice on my personal blog.
So can you please make sure you only click ASK or SUBMIT to send me messages please as I’m unlikely to see the message otherwise. x
You can always pull out of the speech if it is too uncomfortable and hurtful for you to think about. Don’t feel forced to open up and bring back all those memories. Sometimes it is better to keep them hidden away. Otherwise sugar coating is fine. Only speak how you feel comfortable with. No need to push yourself too far. Just do what you can. x
I used to feel the same. I went to university and that was my fresh start and I more or less went for it and put myself out there as much as I could, being shy and often feeling like I’d rather hide than be social, but I’d force myself to and it was one of the best years of my life that first year I managed to change. So I’d say if you can, just go for it! x
I guess you just spend time with people and see who makes you the happiest. You you prefer to spend time with. Like if you had one spare ticket, who would you want with you. It just takes getting to know someone and then you should be able to choose. x
I deleted him from all my social networks and didn’t make any contact with him for a year until he decided to text me last week. Completely over whatever happened between us before I decided to respond. He just asked how I been and how’s school. Convo didn’t last long and I didn’t hear from him for a week. Then he texted me on Saturday. He asked what I was up to and when I said I was going to head home because I had work early the next morning he just didn’t respond.My friend said she thinks he was going to try to see me if I said I didn’t say I had work but I feel like he shouldn’t think he can just come in my life and expect everything to be how it was. So far he’s initiated contact twice and I haven’t texted first once. Do you think I should just leave it alone or reach out to him to see what his deal is? Part 3 (NR) Thanks in advance for reading this and responding if you get the chance!
A: I’d leave it a little longer and see if he contacts you again. My guess is probably that he’s single and feeling a little lonely and has remembered you and thought why don’t I see what she’s up to nowadays. Like there may not be loads behind it of wanting sex but I reckon it might be a big factor. So i’d leave it and just be friendly like you have been if he contacts you again but if he suggests meeting or whatever. By all means do if you think you can be friends. But tell him that maybe you shouldn’t because of you’re past and that you’re over it all so it might be better to just leave it be. x