Sunday 8th December
Is it definitely her? Like was her name on the note or anything? Could they have got the wrong house and tires and that? If not then I’d say if you can maybe get in touch with them and have them explain their side of the story to you. Then approach your girlfriend and have her explain her side. Then it’s up to you. You can either forgive her and hope she doesn’t do it again, give her a second chance. Or you leave her and find someone who won’t cheat, because you will, cheaters aren’t all that common really. Yeah it sucks but sometimes thats just life and people are dicks, you just have to kind of separate yourself from them and pick yourself up and move on. x
It is hard. Trust me I know and have been through it myself. But really you need to just force yourself to get over it. It sounds a bit odd but you need to try and boss you mind around. Force it to think good things about yourself and when it doesn’t tell it off and make it think about something else. There must be one thing you can like and focus on. Or a haircut. Or maybe try a new style of makeup or something. You don’t really need money, people make cheap clothes work really well. Besides I think it’s all in your head rather than to do with how you actually look. It’ll just take time and effort really.
You really need to discuss it more with him. You can try to tell him that you don’t mind. You understand he has long hours and a lot of work but if he’s willing to continue so are you and you won’t get annoyed at him for not spending enough time together. If you tell him all that and he still refuses then there isn’t much more you can do other than call it a break up and move on from him. But I’d say talk it though honestly with each other and discuss if anything could be worked out. x
Thursday 5th December
You could tease him about how obsessed he seems with boys now. It’s like a subtle way of telling him he’s talking too much. If he doesn’t respond then you can just try mentioning it to him. Or seem uninterested and change topics when he brings it up.
If you’re really stuck, food is always good with guys. Or a random fun gift that may only entertain him for a day but it’ll be funny. If you know his style you could try clothes. Or something like a hat or scarf or gloves. Really only you can know since you know him. But if you’re really stuck, food is always good, like chocolate or his favourite sweets.
Thanks! I do like helping people. I just hate how I can’t a lot of the time. Hate how I can’t keep up and sometimes don’t answer people fast enough.
But I did post about not keeping up with 20 asks a day and then woke up to like 30 the next day aha.
I try my best but so many deadlines right now! I’m literally drowning. But I did finally get through an issue that had been crushing me for the past month, so things are better. :)
I don’t really know what to advise. Just dress how you want to dress. If goth style makes you uncomfortable around people then it’s probably not the best choice as you’ll just become self conscious. But at the same time you don’t want to feel forced to dress a certain way that you don’t like. But you need to find somewhere between the two where you can be happy and confident. Maybe start changing gradually. Like buying one item and wearing that first. Then grow your wardrobe and you’ll gradually feel more comfortable in your clothes.
It just kind of takes time. You just need to post lots and often. Talking to people can help. Posting your own things so you’re the source. And tagging those photos. It just takes time though really. You just got to be patient and have a nice clean theme and post interesting things. Although don’t force it, post what you like not what people want or you’ll get bored.
Ignore what all your friends are saying and think about what you want. Do you want closure or are you okay just ignoring the fact and leaving it as is. Most break ups end up that way with only awkward eye contact. You can attempt to have a little chat with him, but you don’t know how he’ll react to it. Or you can leave it alone and just move on like nothing really happened.
I think you do need to tell her really. Although it is your choice, you could do it alone or with your boyfriend, if you aren’t close enough to your mum to feel she’d help you and comfort you. But she is your mum and she would try to understand. You know your mind so don’t let anyone influence you or push you to make a decision. And be safer from now on! There are a lot of methods to stop pregnancy! :P