An anonymous advice tumblr.

Sometimes you just want to talk to someone who doesn't know you, who won't judge you and who will give you advice.

Feel free to ask me anything, anonymously or not. I'm here for you to simply talk to or ask for advice.

I will happily give advice on any subject you wish.

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Saturday 23rd August

My boyfriend is hanging out with this girl alone at her house. He barely knows her. The only thing I know about her is that she likes to party and that she sleeps around a lot. Is it wrong of me to feel uneasy about them hanging out alone?

That is completely normal. I would definitely talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. But make sure you say you trust him but not her. Don’t let it come across like you don’t trust him or he could argue back easily. Just say it makes you uncomfortable, as any girl would be. You don’t need to ask him to stop, he should feel bad for upsetting you and do that anyway. If it doesn’t stop and it’s making you uncomfortable and unhappy in the relationship though it’s not worth it. Tell him you can’t do it and if he wants to continue he’ll have to lose you. Don’t put up with him making you unhappy, that’s not how a relationship should be. x

So recently I told my family that I'm a vegan and they constantly make fun of me and make jokes about it. They always bring it up around everyone and they don't even bother to understand me. I feel like they're not supporting my decision and I've told them how I feel but they didn't change. Is it best to just ignore them?

Yeah I’d say ignore them and just stay true to yourself. Their opinions don’t matter really, you do what you want and eat what you want. They’ll get bored and stop or realise after a while you’re serious. Just ignore and I think it’ll get better. x

I feel really guilty for shoplifting with some of my friends pretty recently. We almost got caught and it know it's very bad but I just can't stop thinking about it.. What should I do?

You could go return whatever you took. But I’d just say you feel bad about it, you won’t do it again, so just forget about it. Make sure you don’t do it again and try to make sure they don’t either. You know it’s bad and you know you’ve done wrong. As long as you don’t do it again I think it’s okay. You can return the item if you feel bad though. x

I'm starting high school soon (as a freshman) and I'm scared/nervous bc I don't know anyone there... I'm also a very quiet person in general (and I feel like I'm a very awkward/ boring person to talk to) but I don't want to be friendless, etc. is there anything I can do to make (good) friends???

I’m not the best person to ask but you just have to be yourself and try to put yourself out there. I advise to dive straight in as this is when people seem more welcoming. The usual thing of joining clubs and that can really help. If you just be yourself and act friendly and nice with everyone and chat to people you should be fine. Just try not to isolate yourself. x

im 16 AND I HOOKED UP WITH THE GUY WHO WAS 17 AT A PARTY AND WE WERE BOTH SOBER. WE HAVE MUTUAL FRIENDS BUT WE DONT LIVE IN THE SAME CITY WHICH ISNT THE ISSUE. I LIKE HIM AND I MESSAGED HIM 2 NIGHTS AGO AND WE TALKED AND I WANT TO MESSAGE HIM AGAIN TONIGHT BUT I DONT WANT TO SEEM ANNOYING. WHAT DO IDO? he probably just thought of it as a one time thing. and while we were hooking up he kept calling me beautiful

Just do it! Do what you want and try not to worry about stuff like that. If he doesn’t want to talk or anything then he won’t reply or his replies will be short and show he doesn’t really care. If that happens then give up but until then talk to him if you want to. x

Hello :) Someone who I like/likes me (it's complicated) is a bit sexist and idk how to deal with it. He isnt aggressive about it but thinks things like "only women can be sluts" and "women aren't as strong as men". He's not TRYING to be sexist, he's more ignorant if anything. I'm sure it could be worse, but it's upsetting. Idk what to do because I know people cant always agree but this I just can't ignore because I REALLY like him otherwise and I dont want to lose him. What do I do? :s

I think you just have to face the fact you both have different ideas. A relationship won’t work out if you disagree on something so strongly. You could try to explain to him your side but it’s hard to change people opinions sometimes. And I think it would cause arguing and unhappiness if you got together. So maybe just look for someone who is more similar to you. x

Thursday 21st August

I was hit by a ball and my BFF just pointed and laughed

That’s what best friends do. :) x

Hi I usually don't ask people for help but I feel like I really need some. I'm in high school and I know its a stressful time and we learn who our real friends are. I feel like my best friend is ditching me for someone else, but I really don't like her personality so I dont want to hang out with both of them. And my whole group of friends are basically falling apart. I feel so alone, i dont know what to do.

Try to not worry and just be yourself. Learn how to keep yourself busy and not care. But with the friends you really like and want to spend time with, make effort to keep those friendships. Try not to stress over people changing and drifting apart. Just do what you want and be friends with who you want. Put in effort but also don’t be upset if you just end up making completely new friends. x

Sunday 10th August

im in a friends with benefits relationship and the guy is a bit of a dick and would never be someone i could fall for and we aren't even good friends i mean he never texts me or cares. he is always telling me how beautiful i am and is really protective around his friends but he is basically using me for sex which is fine because i am doing the same but its been going for a while and i really want to end it but its like i cant bring myself to do it and im really struggling what should i do?

You’ve just gotta do it. If it’s what you want. You shouldn’t feel bad about it or anything since it’s not like breaking up really. If you worry you’ll miss the sex then it’s just sex and masturbation is just as good aha. If you struggle to say it to him in person then don’t be worried of just texting or calling or something to get it out the way. It’s not so bad as a relationship really. It’s just letting him know you don’t want sex anymore rather than breaking up. x

So I have this instagram account and like I followed people from my school like I'm pretty close with. And like some people that I thought liked me wouldn't follow me back, and like it really hurts although its such a small thing, and like I don't know how to get over it haha. If you have any advice on how to get over this small thing please tell mee x

Maybe talk to them about instagram and be like hey you should follow me on there! Aha. They might have just not looked at who followed them, like not everyone does follow backs, I don’t think, I don’t know much about instagram. But yeah just tell them in person they should aha. x